Mom 2 Mom: Being Schooled
It took 3 years of trying before I had my firstborn. More than 2 years of the monthly hopes being dashed yet again.
When I finally held that sweet boy in my arms, I was overcome with joy, bliss. Excitement at this new journey ahead. I felt fairly well prepared. I was able to stay at home while my husband worked and devote my whole self to this project. I was armed with a dozen What to Expect and How to Train them to Sleep books and the Super Baby Food book.
I was ready.
Or so I thought.
Four months in and my child was up every 30 minutes through the night.
Nine months in and my sweet boy had serious diarrhea that last 6 weeks and got ALL over everything.
A year and a half in and I had to screw every piece of furniture to the wall because he climbed them when my back was turned.
Two years in and he stopped napping entirely despite my driving halfway across Connecticut to attempt to get him to fall asleep in the car.
Six years in he wrote a Declaration of Independence, had his stuffed animals sign and invited me and his father to also sign off on it.
I was not ready for this.
My greatest teacher….
All the books said it I was consistent with bedtime and baths and meals and rules, loving and firm I would have a compliant, well-mannered child. While he was sweet and well-mannered (with others), I had very little control over this AMAZING and RESOURCEFUL boy despite my best efforts.
My sister said to me once, “If I saw you and him at a grocery store and didn’t know you, I would think you didn’t discipline him at all...but I know you do!”
Nothing I had learned worked.
The books and the parenting experts were wrong—or I was.
Either way, by the time he was six I remember sitting on the floor in my room head to the ground, crying and thinking to myself,
“If this is how it is at 6, when he gets to 16 we are screwed.”
This is how I began my 20 years of schooling on being Mom.
Over the years, I’ve learned not just how to be the mom I want to be, but so much more about myself, us as humans, and what I thought I knew along the way.
If you can relate in any way, or are earlier on your journey and want some cheering along the path, some resources or tools and some REAL mom friendship—
Join me and Christine Wednesday evenings at Studio Beju in Duvall starting in February.
Space is limited--we have a few seats left in our Mom circle.
Register now to reserve your spot.
I’m excited to share there--because my story gets better. PLUS, I know that each mom that comes and participates will have her own story--and her own lessons and resources to share. So come ready to learn--and come knowing that your lessons, your a-has and your hard earned wins can help ME or someone else on their path to becoming mom.